Omalee Blog : Emotional Stress
Showing posts with label Emotional Stress. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Emotional Stress. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 19, 2018

Married At Noon, Divorced Before Sunset, Why Should I Go Through It A Second Time?

 Hello Chioma,
 I am a fan of your  write ups, my name. is Irene. I am 32 years old. 
I have  been living with these  pain for the  past  five   years.

Everyday  I see reasons to pack out of  my  matriominal  home, to leave  my husband  of over  five years with  our  2  kids and walk away. 

Somehow I  find  comfort in  the  soothing  words  I hear from  my pastor and  your  articles  I read. 

Okay let me  not bore you with  my  long  story, but my marriage is a  living hell of a place for me. 

Firstly  on  the  night  after my  wedding ,I woke up in the  middle of the  night to use the  restroom and  found out my  husband  wasn't  lying  beside me,getting  closer to the  restroom  I could  hear noises  from one of the  bathroom,it was a studio  flat design at the  pent house  with  double  toilet and  bathroom , so it was  just two of us in there, I guessed  it was him, I got closer to the  bathroom and  peeped  through the  narrow  opening, I saw my  husband  standing  on his feet ,with  his head bent  backwards, he had his two  hands  on the  sink,a lady I didn't  recognise  knelt down in front of him sucking  his penis ,they were  so engrossed in their act that  not any one of them noticed  my presence,.
I opened my mouth to shout  but no sound  came out, my legs  wobbled under me, my body  felt  so light, I still  can't  recollect how I managed to get back to the  bedroom, remember it was  the  morning  before that I  said  "I do" to him and him to me. 

My husband  denied being the  one, he came in from the  front door and  claimed  he was at his family  private  meeting, I had refused  dressing up to meet  his  family and the  guests  coming in to greet us(the newly married)   I told him  to invite  my mother  to hear what I  wanted to  say but he refused, "We just  got married and it's embarrassing to  start  inviting  our  parents  to settle  issues  for us" he'd  insisted. 

Everything  I told  him I saw  I was  sure of but he denied  all, he insinuated   I might have  "slept walked ' because  he informed me of the  meeting even before he left  the  bedroom and  his family  members  all agreed they  had a meeting. 

The  second thing  I  had to endure was  the  calls at odd times, these were  private  calls, and it's  always  deep into the  early morning hours, few times  I closed  my eyes and  pretend  to be deep asleep, when ever  he was done with the  calls which  always ends with  "see you soon" he'd  blow kisses  before  walking  back into the  room, I have  checked the  number severally,it was a particular number I later found out belonged to a particular  woman. 

After the  first  months of our wedding, it was  practically  impossible for my husband to have  full erection, at first I thought it was  stress from work, so I suggested  he reduce  his schedules  and for sex to be for weekends  so he can rest well. 

It continued even after, we tried  home remedies, even got dirtier and  saw pornography  together  but it changed  nothing, I had to hold  his soft penis  with  my  hand  after  applying  lubricant and  massaging  it deeply, I will  push  his penis  inside  me with the  hand, it won't get to one  minute  before  he'd  climax  

It was  frustrating to  say the  least, but I loved  my  husband  and wanted for  us work , 
I couldn't  help but masturbate each time I  felt the urge for sex, my husband has everything in his favour, good  looks, agility and the  muse, what ever the  problem was  seemed  unfounded. 

I knew  he lied  everytime he tried to  make  me feel I was the  centre of  his life, I knew there's  some things  he was into  but I could not  say exactly what it was. 

Our first  baby came then the  second, at least  he can produce  fertile  sperm, just  seemed  impossible for him to make  me feel like a woman. 

It was  during  my visit to   our doctor that I  opened up and  shared  my  greatest  pain to him, he promised to  see my husband who was his  school  mate and day one  buddy. 

He told me to promise to never  let it out that  he was the one who told  me, I promised  him, that  fateful  afternoon, our family doctor told me that  nothing is wrong with  my husband  medically, he said  my husband told him that  he was never attracted to  me sexually, that  my naked body  doesn't  move  him, he only  married  me because  I was  hardworking and dedicated, he wanted a good woman for his kids, our family  doctor  told me my  husband  had a woman  he loved and he shared  fantastic  sex life with  her, he goes placid only  for me, he told me my  husband  confided in him. 

For me I had nothing  holding  me  to him, I have  been pretending to  have  him as my  man even though  I know  better, I know  I will  leave  him soon,  I will either  go with  my two  kids  or leave them with  his mother, I know  he  can kill me for them, I have started  packing  my  stuff gradually, I have  written a  note  I will  drop  for him on my  departure "My bone  ache carrying  the  weight of  everything you  promised, your  empty words were  heavy "

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Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Why Can't Ivy Understand That I Don't Love Her?

I told  my  boss that the  MTB girl has been disturbing  asking to see me, she  said why not if I can, so that evening I decided to  take her  call and we agreed to meet up that evening.

I met her at the  bus stop close to  my office and she  drove us to her  house, which was  where we agreed for the 'private  meeting ',we got into  her apartment,  it was a  nicely  made  mini  duplex sparesly  furnished ,the  beautiful   milk  coloured curtains fitted well  with the couch, I took in the  whole  apartment in a  second .

She took me to a seat and excused  herself so she can tidy up,munites later  she  came out with two  glasses of wine and offered me one, I took  it and we  made a toast to great  partnership.

We talked about everything,work,family,circle of friends, state of the country etc, we drank our  wine and  munched  the  fried chicken she  brought ,I waited for her to say something  about  business  deal or proposal  but  nothing of such  came up throughout our conversation.

It was a little over  11 pm when I  stood up to go but she refused, she  said the  estate she  lived  has a  common gateway  that  get  locked  by 11pm that it'd be a bit risky going out  very  late and pleaded with me to spend the night. It was a Friday and there's no work  the next day,  so why not? I told myself to relax and enjoy the  new environment and company I had.

Each one of us was exhausted, after the days work and long talk plus the terrible traffic we encountered on the road to her  house, it didn't  take  longer time for us to sleep off.

I turned around and it was wee hours of the  morning, the  bedside  clock  showed  it was 4.15 am, the  room felt  cool, the  air-condition  was on, I looked at the figure lieing  beside me, she  looked  peaceful in her  sleeping  mood! I smiled and  pulled the  bed sheets  over  my  body,I placed  my head on the pillow and stared at the ceiling not sure if I would be able to sleep again.

I felt  her movement as she  crawled  closer to  me, her breathe was heavy and fast, she  drew  closer and wrapped  her hands over  my shoulder, her slender and  velvet  body  clinged on me, I felt  my  manhood  lept, the  softness of her skin  sent  waves of emotions  surge through my veins.

I held  myself  not wanting to be too  forward and not wanting to  be a coward either.
She pressed  her  body  tightly on me,her soft  breast  brushed on  my body and multiplied my uneasiness, she  pushed  her mouth to mine and forced  her tongue into  my  mouth and began to kiss me hungrily,by now  my penis  has grown bigger .

I turned over and  held her, her body was soft to the touch, I kissed her. On the  cheek  then on her lips, I kissed her all over her  neck, soft  moans escaped  her .

This was  someone I knew  nothing about her  personal life ,we had great  office relationship, being the accountant in the  bank  my  company  banked with , she  was diligent and has great  respect and   excellent work experience

Our  lips  locked together in a very  passionate kiss, we rushed  our  body, touched the  right  places ,our body  locked together I deep emotions ,we  made sweet  passionate love, we climaxed again and again, spent we rested our  body in each others embrace.

I woke up at about   noon,had bath and ate the  Jollof rice she  prepared for lunch,
 I left to my house after  few hugs and nice words.

life returned to  normal for me, I buried  myself into  my work and had  little time for leisure, but it was not the same for her,I don't know if it was the sex that  sparked up things on her  side, her calls  tripled, she wanted to talk to me every  minute,she wanted to   see me every day and  made  efforts to  get  me over to her house   but I  refused to  let that happen.

I don't  feel anything for her, nothing  strong or even  something that  can make  me want to be with  her, I noticed  her legs  shake  while we made  love  ,she was extremely  excited, I am not into  her, It was just a  mere  pleasurable moment we shared  but  she is finding it hard to accept it.

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