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Friday, May 31, 2019

My First Transactional Intimacy(He Refused To Pay Me But We Had An Agreement)


I lost my dad few years ago,because he was the sole provider for the family life became pretty hard for us.

Picking up the pieces,we started  fishery business and that's how we've been surviving,but along the line  the business crashed due to  vaccination failure.

And that was how we lost everything , since then my mum hasn't been doing anything there's no money to come back into business .

I'm in my 200 levels in the university currently and I'm running a part time Job …I do daily contribution also ,my salary is twelve thousand naira, that is what I use for transport fare  for me and my sister  and to take care of our needs. 
My boyfriend supports also even though he's not well to do.

There's one of my customers who's been disturbing me since,he's married,so on wednesday  there was nothing at home,no gas and foodstuff, the guy called as usual and  I agreed to meet up,my reason was to beg him for some  money then pay back when I can.

When I got there we got talking and he said he can give me 20k oh well that's a lot for me right now and he said he doesn't want a refund he wants sex.
We dragged and I was like okay,at least the money can fill gas and buy some foodstuff before I get paid
We got intimate but instead of giving me the amount we agreed on,the guy started saying he'd call me the next morning to give me the money,I was like " Bros that's not our agreement " 
That was  my first transactional sex .He said he doesn't have money on him that he'd call me and there was nothing I could do.He gave me one thousand naira for transport fare
He said  that he doesn't have the money now,that he'd call me in the evening to give me.I didn't get his call ,when I called he didn't take my call ,after I called severally and he didn't pick up I had to call him with a different number as he heard my voice he ended my call

I just realised he blocked my number this morning
Sincerely  I feel so stupid right now

It's not as if I sit at home and do nothing,I'm a student plus I'm also doing daily contribution .

I can't get a good paying job right now because nobody wants a part time worker,
The whole thing is just so annoying.

Admin's Note-I took the Guy's number from her and called him,he didn't deny though he said he hasn't paid because he's having troubles that held him back.

But I told him that it's unfair of him,he knew he had no money on him but he didn't tell her instead he lied just to get what he wanted.
I told him he must pay all the money,it's a transaction and the agreement stands,
Before this publication the girl called me and told me he sent her five thousand naira .
I cautioned her seriously and told her to desist from such act,she is above 18 and she gave her consent.

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Thursday, May 30, 2019

MEN ROUNDTABLE(Episode 1) Does 1+1 Come Into Play In The Issue Of Money?

          Welcome To Men Roundtable.


This week we are discussing; Financial Discipline On The Part Of  Our Partners And How We React To Women Attitude Towards Spending ( Women and Money)

It's believed that 1+1 is 1 in the algebra of love, so I'm asking

 (1) Will you let  the   woman  in your life have access to your money ?
(B) Will she have freedom to  spend your money whenever she's in need without your permission?
(C) How would you react when she spends more than you ordinarily would  allow?


Elvis Alex, Canada based information communication technology specialist has this to say
 Yes, she's among the reasons I  am making the money

 I will make sure She  has enough to take care of  her needs. What if I wasn't available?. I don't want her to be calling me anytime she needs money.
. Depends on what she spent it on, I don't think there is a limit to what someone can spend. The issue will be on what she spent it on.

We will  have a discussion to find out why she used the money if it's a large sum  and if she needed to use that much.Bottom line.my spouse has everything right to my savings.

Abalike Agbo Psychologist based in Rome Italy
1) Yes  because even if she asked me I will give her
B ).  This depends on. Love comes with responsibility or responsibility is attached to love , She must inform me even if she has taken already so that accountability is maintained.

C)Reactions will not help any matter and proper planning and  budgeting is necessary. We can't spend more than we earn. So she can't spend more than  what is allowed. Besides  we plan together.

Dana Joseph  works in a private sector in Benue state Nigeria

Yes I will
B. She will have liberty to spend whenever she needs money but she should  inform me beforehand unless  it's an emergency. That kind of emergency that makes logical sense.

C) If it was necessary then it's fine but if not then I'll frown at it.


Anonymous Respondent.

Yes I will allow a woman in my life access to my money.

I wouldn't allow her to use my money without my permission. I would also not want to spend her's without her permission unless in case of emergency both ways.
I will not be happy if she spends more money than budgeted.
If there is legitimate reason I will understand otherwise I would not like it.


Kunle , Journalist Lagos 
1.She has limited access to my money.
2.  She's to have my consent to spend.
3. She gets tutored on financial discipline.

So what's your take? Are you going to let her  spend as much as she wants to or there are limits?keep the conversation going.
Enjoy the rest of your day and beyond.

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Wednesday, May 29, 2019

GIRlS TALK (Episode 1) When Do You Know You Are In Love?



Romantic love which is what we are looking at is the kind of love that exists between a man and a woman. It is hugely controlled by emotions, passion and desire. It is the feeling of attraction between the opposite sex , the Greeks called it "madness of the gods" .Romantic love mostly leaves  the  people in it without choice, it is swift and breezy, most people believes one really have no hold on when love can happen to them,but it's strongly believed that we usually have control over whom we choose to be in love with.


So when do you know you are in love?

You're sure you're truly in love with  this guy,you're putting in work but he feels indifferent. He's not showing signs of mutuality and his intentions aren't clear.How would you handle this?

Girls Talk  took opinions of these beautiful young women and these are what they have to say.



 I am Kemza Timmy,29  and A Fashion Designer.
OK for me I know I'm in love  when I think about a guy more than anything else, I feel the urge to be with him often and when I smile unknowingly at his calls then I know I love him.

Girls Talk-So You know you're in love with him,you're putting in effort to make the relationship work but he's  not  doing enough, What would you do?

 If I have put in work to make a guy actually ask to date me and he is not acting like he sees me the only thing I will do is to let him be, I will try to avoid him and with time the feelings will disappear,  this senario has happened to me before. It's difficult to let go and sometimes it could make a person feel worthless but when you find someone else you will be good and look back and be glad the other guy did not even give in

Admin-So like a disappointment being a blessing in disguise?

Something like that

Girls Talk-Admin please one quick one

Admin- okay

Girls Talk-Which is more difficult,Letting go or starting again? 

Admin-Why not ask the girls?I'm not eligible to participate. 

Girls Talk lol,thanks ma'am  Let's meet the beautiful woman next  on the line.




 I am Fatima Binta Idris,I am 25 years  and a Legal Practitioner.

Girls Talk -So When Do You Know You're In Love

I know i am in love when hearing from "him" via calls or texts lightens my mood. I  know Iam in love when he is the first person I want to call always and I stop working on my backup plans. Most times when I find myself going through previous chats with that smile on my face and butterflies in my stomach; I am in love. I know I am in love when I cant wait to share some of the stupid things I did during the day with "him". It is mostly in my guts.

Girls Talk-He wanted you and seeked you out,but inside the relationship he's not been the guy you expected him to be,doesn't act like he's in it with you.How would you handle it?

Mostly when I put in work in the relationship I expect the same energy given back. But if the guy is not reciprocating same or have no clear intentions I let him go.

Girls Talk -How easy is it  for you to  let go?

I am a lady and deserves to be "chased" every day like he is still trying to  make me his woman. I  do not have the luxury of time to be left hanging with no clear cut intentions. I love certainty; its either we are both in or please don't waste my time. I don't force things to happen especially relationships, let nature do its work; if its meant to be it will totally happen. I would never waste a man's time and would appreciate if mine is not wasted either. Where I don't get what I want, I channel the same energy into another...I would never force love to happen. Men always know when a lady is the "one" I would never give a man the satisfaction   of tagging me as being too "up in his face or business". You cannot force a man to commit. If a guy truly loves you, you don't have to teach him how to treat you right or do the right things. I always know when its time to cut my loses and bolt.

Girls Talk-Thank you beautiful Fatima,next on the line is-Lets meet You Adorable

 I am Dolly Korede,28 and a Worker




Girls Talk-Tell us  what love means to you and when you know you're in love?

Firstly I'd like to say something about love.
Love is an intense feeling of deep affection, it is also a variety of different feelings, state and attitude with no limits or conditions for a person.

The feeling of love may not likely be  different from the feeling of infatuation but being persistent with it can actually tell what it is.

I know I am  in love when
1. I always think about him and want him around me at every point.
2. When my heart rate synchronises with his
3. I always want him to be happy irrespective of anything and
4. I just love everything about him and hardly finds faults not because there aren't faults but because the percentage of love  I have for him is high enough to cover his flaws.

Love can sometimes be crazy especially when you want someone that doesn't feel like he wants you back by reciprocating what you feel for him and in such a situation,I cannot pull  myself down for someone who doesn't find it interesting to stay in my  life. I don't run after a person who doesn't have an intense feeling for me.

If I find myself in a situation of loving someone so deep and I know in my  heart that I truly love this person  but he doesn't  reciprocate  or appreciate how  I  feel about him, I will
1. Accept the fact that he doesn't need  me
 2.Leave the dream about him behind and move on
3.I won't get angry with him or myself
4 I will Recognise that I can't control that person's emotion and I will express my  feelings to myself and get rid of his memories.

Girls Talk- There's no much difference on how  the Ladies view love,It's necessaLove?o appreciate the feelings of someone who truly loves us especially the person we seeked out ourselves,
If at any point we feel like what we thought was real doesn't feel same,its important we talk it over and agree on the next step instead of  abusing someone's emotion. "Don't hurt  a heart that chose to love you"

Feel free to drop your opinion on the topic  "When do you know you are in love?",let's do this again next week.
Stay Adorably Feminine.


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Monday, May 27, 2019

Closer To The Midnight Screams


 The only one my soul wants,the one my body yearns for,come in I invite you,I wait patiently, in full desire to be consumed by you,my passion is full and  burning ,it's all for you.

My fingers in your hair,your strong arms circle around my waist.come in and make love to me,my whole being yearns  for your masculine touch, my body and soul wants to be loved and taken.

My chest pressed softly to  yours,I could feel  your breath against my ear,so subtle.

There's no holding back in this sacred moment, it's a Paradise for you and I ,make love to my body,mind and soul ,till I'm spent,caress my body till my lids sticks together ,my lips shivers and my knees wobbles.


Your left hand held my back and drew me closer to you,your eyes fixed on mine
My lips became yours, it feels safe,it feels whole.a wonderful feeling, so alluring, so amazing.

How does it feel knowing there's a wonderful soul  needing you and you're needing all the tenderness?, we are all ready to give and to receive,without judgment we allow everything we feel empty  out ,our desires burn out and we are satisfied.
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Saturday, May 25, 2019

4 Natural Ways To Treat Irregular Menstruation


Unripe pawpaw is the magic you need....

(1) Unripe pawpaw is the most potent remedy in regulating menstrual flow as it helps contract muscle fibers in the uterus. Consume unripe pawpaw juice regularly for a few months but do not drink it during your periods.

(2) Also use Aloe Vera.
Do not use this remedy during your periods. Aloe vera helps treat irregularities naturally by controlling  your hormones.

(3)To get the simplest results, extract fresh aloe vera gel from an aloe leaf, mix in one teaspoon of honey and consume it daily before having your breakfast.

(4) Also ginger goes well too, Boil 1 tablespoon of fresh ginger for 5 minutes. Add very little sugar and drink the mixture 3 times daily. Ginger is very effective  in  controling  irregular cycles and obtaining obviate irregular periods.

Try this and thank me later.
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The 2 Best Solution For Vaginal Dryness


Your private area is always dry?no problem.
Olive oil and coconut oil  the   powerful  combination  that  sends vaginal dryness  packing  permanently .

Vaginal dryness makes sex uncomfortable for women,they hardly get wet making penetration difficult, at the end the vagina get bruised,leaving sores on it when not treated properly, this makes the vagina  to be bringing out foul smell.,and makes the affected person scared of having sex again.


(a)Vaginal dryness could be the reason you rarely get wet.

(b) It causes itching on the private area.

(c)The skin on your vagina peels off when you try to scratch  on the area .

(d)It causes blister

(e)It makes sex  so uncomfortable

Vaginal dryness is often caused by hormonal imbalances, primarily a decline in estrogen levels so counter it with the  combination of olive oil and coconut  oil,

 These are natural moisturizers due to their nurturing and hydrating vitamin E content.

How To Use  this Combination.

(1)Apply  topically to the vagina morning and  night for instant relief.

(2)Take  plenty  nuts and soymilk. It increases  estrogen levels in the  body.You will  notice the  positive result in few weeks.

Supporting You.
Chioma

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Friday, May 24, 2019

3 Guaranteed Remedies For Saggy Breasts


Every woman desires to have firm breasts especially after childbirth or breastfeeding, but this is not always the case. Although breastfeeding tends to take all the blame for saggy breasts, it is not the lone cause of drooping breasts.

A lot of single girls go through depressing moments thinking of how to combat the issue of saggy breast.

You don't need surgery or any other dangerous method, religiously follow the tips below and find yourself smiling again.


(1)Applying olive oil, vegetable oil, fennel seed oil and also carrot oil can help rejuvenate some of the properties that can help restore the elasticity of sagging skin.

(a)massage your breasts with these oil at regular intervals throughout the day. applying too much can burn your skin, so two drops are more than enough to keep you going at every point you want to apply it.
In order to induce higher results, you can also mix two drops of any essential oil along with the vegetable oil.Massage for about 15 minutes in order to increase blood flow and stimulate cell repair and make sure you do it like four to five times a week.

(2)Apply Cucumber
You can grind and mix one cucumber, add a cup of clean water, some natural cream with egg yolk or white egg, as it is good for sagging breasts due to its astringent and skin-nourishing properties.

Once you're done with the combination , refrigerate and apply it on your breasts later.
Allow it stay on your skin for few minutes before washing off
This will  tone your breast muscles however make sure that you are doing this once every week to assist strengthen the breast tissue.

(3)Use Aloe Vera Gel
You can use  aloe vera  gel by applying it in a very circular motion on your breasts for ten minutes. Let it sit for another 10 minutes before you wash it off with warm water. For higher results , do it a minimum of 5 times every week.

You can also prepare a mixture of one tablespoon of Aloe Vera, one teaspoon of honey and mayonnaise. Apply it on your breast and leave for quarter-hour before washing it off with cold water. Do this once a week for better results. Aloe Vera helps in skin modification.
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